Marriage: A grave or a fairy tale?

Divorces are getting more and more common. So why do you get married? Below are some of the reasons:

(1) Peer pressure from your partner when you are not ready.
(2) "Accidents" resulting in creation of human life.
(3) Family pressure to get married
(4) "I dun want to be left on the shelf and only he/she wants me"
(5) Getting a "Dad" or "Mum" for your child.
(6) Duh!!! Simply Because "I Love You and You Love Me"

Reason (6) results in 90% of marriages ...duh!! People married because of that reason must be living happily ever after in the magical world of love...? Please slap yourself and wake up...Marriage is not so simple. "So problem is solved if I find someone who is cute, handsome/pretty and rich". If u agree with the previous statement, then i am almost 101% sure, you have only used 0.00001% of your brain (plain naive).

Below are the issues in marriage.
A. Marriage expectations-----B. Personality issues-----C. Communication
D. Conflict resolution-----E. Financial management-----F. Leisure activities
G. Sexual expectations-----H. Children and parenting-----I. Family and friends
J. Role relationship-----K. Spiritual beliefs-----L. Couple closeness
M. Family closeness-----N. Couple flexibility-----O. Family flexibility

So how to be sure if you are ready for marriage? Ans: Pre-marriage counselling
Pre-marriage counseling sessions create an awareness of marital issues and problems that might occur in marital relationship. Pre-marriage counseling also assists people in determining if they are fully ready for marriage.

A Pre-Marriage Counselling Personality Assessment also consists of
§ Assertiveness – the ability to express feelings to your partner and to be able to ask for what you would like
§ Self Confidence – focuses on how individuals feel about themselves and their ability to control things in their lives
§ Avoidance – the tendency to minimise issues and the reluctance to deal with issues directly
§ Partner Dominance – considers how much a person feels their partner tries to control and dominate their life

Most couples did not consider issues in marriage and when they faced with the issues, they are often frustrated with themselves or their spouse making the relationship unhealthy. My advice is "do go for marriage counselling, you get to discover yourself, your potential spouse to forge a more blissful marriage ahead.